Hatred is an emotion that we experience when we feel that someone or something is a threat to our happiness, success, and well-being.
The feelings of hatred are there to motivate us to move away or avoid the people or things that we believe have the potential of causing us pain. We are all naturally motivated towards pleasure and away from pain.
For example, when a student says, “I hate maths” it means maths a potential source of pain for this student. It may be that he isn’t good at it or that his maths teacher is boring- we’re not concerned with why hates maths. How a hater’s mind works
A hater hates because his psychological stability has been disturbed and by hating he manages to restore it. Jealousy and hatred are closely related.
When a person who hates you see you doing something that he wanted to do but couldn’t or can’t, he may try to stop you or slow you down. This is because watching you succeed makes him feel inferior, insecure and unworthy.
He may, therefore, criticize you, gossip about you, ridicule you, laugh at you, demotivate you- anything to hinder your progress.
Haters can’t see you happy and sometimes may even ask you detailed questions about your life just to make sure you’re unhappy and miserable or at least doing worse than them. Not everyone becomes a hater
All of us find ourselves in a weaker position compared to others at some point in our lives but all of us don’t become haters. Why is that?
A person only hates someone when there’s nothing else that he can do i.e. all his options have been exhausted.
Suppose a child wanted a toy but his parents refused to buy him one. The child will then do his best to persuade his parents and if that also doesn’t work then he may start crying. If crying fails too then the child will resort to the last option i.e. hatred and might say things like:
I have the worst parents in the world. I hate you both.
Since no one likes to be hated, the child’s mind used one last weapon to motivate the parents to buy the toy by inducing guilt in them.
Sometimes people find themselves hating someone that they don’t even know. One fact you must know about the subconscious mind is that it believes that similar objects or people are the same.
If during school you hated a rude teacher who had brown hair and wore specs, then you might find yourself hating a similar-looking person (with brown hair and specs) without understanding why.
This happens because you subconsciously think that the two persons are the same therefore hating one person automatically makes you hate another.