Jealousy(Reason And Remedy)
""Avoiding jealousy and envy and trying to feel joyful for others' happiness creates much good karma. Feeling joy also keeps the mind at peace. If the mind is jealous and envious, you will feel very uncomfortable, like you have a big stone in your mind. But feeling joyful keeps the mind peaceful, without problems.""(Rabindranath Banerjee"Ranjan")
People don’t normally experience jealousy unless they feel threatened by another person or entity.
Sibling jealousy is usually caused by a child’s fear that the parents will replace him or her with a new sibling or love another sibling more.
In romantic relationships, jealousy is typically triggered by a third party. The third party doesn’t have to actually pose a threat; the mere perception of a threat is enough to get the wheels of jealousy turning.
Like almost every other emotion and relationship problem, jealousy is heavily affected by individual factors. Past experience can increase a person’s likelihood of being jealous.
An adult whose parents modelled jealousy may tend more toward jealousy, and a person who has been betrayed by a lover might be more prone to suspicion.
Traits such as anxiety can also affect jealousy.
People who tend to worry a lot are more likely to worry about losing a loved one. The unique dynamics of a relationship can also affect jealous feelings.
When there’s a mismatch in relationship styles, it can be a recipe for jealousy.
Attachment plays a significant role in jealousy, and people with insecure attachment styles can be more jealous than people who are securely attached. For example, a husband who needs a lot of attention and reassurance might be more prone to jealousy if his wife tends to like her personal space. A highly social husband might make his more introverted wife jealous, particularly if she’s not used to having the large number of close relationships he has.
Jealousy is not always a negative emotion. It can alert you to a deficit in your relationship and help you become mindful of potential outside threats.
After all, sometimes you really are in danger of losing your mate. But when jealousy takes over or occurs for no apparent reason, it can be highly destructive.
Couples experiencing problems with jealousy may benefit from couples therapy.
Other ways to minimize jealousy include:
(1)Talking directly and openly about feelings.
(2)Discussing strategies to minimize jealousy.
(3)Practicing honesty in interpersonal relationships.
(4)Examining whether the jealousy is caused by external or internal factors.
(5)Working to improve lacking elements within the relationship.
(6)Taking time to make the other person feel special and valued.
""The jealous man lives in hell. Drop comparing and jealousy disappears, meanness disappears, phoniness disappears. But you can drop it only if you start growing your inner treasures, there is no other way.""